You’ve just gone through a breakup. It’s not an easy time. You have to come to terms with the loss of the perfect little family you’d dreamed of. You’re not at your best. You feel ugly. Your self-confidence has vanished, and you feel like you’re going to spend the rest of your days all alone in the world. You watch the elderly couple on your street taking their little walk hand in hand, and you cry your eyes out, envying the fact that they’re still in love despite the passage of time. “How lucky they are,” you tell yourself. And as for you, your life is over, and you’ll never know love again…
A few months later, you come back down to Earth and realize that your life isn’t over. The mother of all men isn’t dead, and now it’s time for you to go out and find the man of your dreams! You’ve lost weight. You feel good about yourself. You’ve regained control of your life, and you’re glowing. Sure, it’s not always easy, but you’re doing much better.
But where is Prince Charming now? You haven’t been on a date since college. These days, of course, you’re going to look for him online! So you discover a whole bunch of dating sites and apps to help you find your soulmate. You try to write a profile about yourself that makes sense, to share your interests… what are your interests again? Doing laundry and going to the park—does that even count?
And when you finally think you’ve managed to fill out your profile properly, it’s not over yet. There are the infamous photos… you have to try to find the best shots of yourself. The problem is that for the past few years, you’ve been the family photographer. So what on earth are you going to find??? You were rarely in the photos, and even when you were, you can’t post the ones of your broken family or with your kids… Aside from selfies or photos you try to crop so only you are visible, you don’t have much to work with.
You’re starting to get discouraged by how complicated the process is, but you keep at it, telling yourself that the man of your dreams might not be far away—and then you see that infamous question: “Do you have children?” Uh, yes! And then comes the killer question… “How many?” And to help you out, here are your answer options:
- 1
- 2
- 3
- more than 3
From that moment on, your spirits took a hit. Now you’ve been lumped into the “more than 3” crowd!!! A breed apart from the rest. You’re in an exclusive group that includes everyone from those with 4 kids to those with 10!!! After 3, the number of kids doesn’t matter anymore.
It won’t be easy, but don’t despair, mom of four… you’ll find the guy who’ll accept your little rascals!!