One day, you planted a little seed in your girlfriend’s belly, and 40 weeks later, she popped her head out. A little while later, you didn’t have a girlfriend anymore, but that little seed kept growing in the light of day. You, on the other hand, left, lost your way, and in your search, you forgot that you had a beautiful, big garden.
Sit down, man, and listen to what I’m about to tell you!
Your ex—well, she’s the one who gets up at night to soothe your child’s nightmares. You know, the child you two decided to have together? A little math refresher: 2 is the sum of 1 + 1. And you—sleeping in 3-hour chunks—haven’t you experienced that yet? That’s not normal!
Your ex is the one who goes for the morning run. And everyone with kids knows that mornings with them are a race against the clock—no fun allowed. You’ve been a dad for three years and you still don’t know the struggle of getting winter boots on during the morning rush? Well, that’s not normal!
Your ex rushes out of work like a headless chicken because her second shift is starting. And you, every single day of your life, cruise along nice and easy with your sunroof open, wondering which buddy’s place you’re going to head to for a beer. That’s not normal!
You pick up your son once every two weeks, and it seems just as complicated as if your ex asked you to learn Cantonese in 24 hours? Well, that’s not normal!
You chill with your friends whenever you want, and your ex can barely find a kid-free moment to go get her teeth cleaned. That’s not normal!
Your ex—the mother of your children, your “heroine” as you’ve called her before—well, she has the right to some time alone, too, in silence with herself. Have you ever thought that maybe she wants to thrive, too? Why do you want her so badly to regret choosing you as a father? For months, even years, she’s been asking you to help her and be there for her. You’re the one in charge of your own decisions, and you’re choosing not to be there!
Hey, a father’s presence in a child’s life is really important.
Just because you and your girlfriend aren’t together anymore doesn’t mean you should stop watering your garden. A garden without water… it withers!
Dude, take responsibility!
Anonymous